Even your friends.
As we grow older we fade out of friendships and make new ones.
We all try to keep in contact with friends; but we move, new jobs or new relationships happen.
In the end, some friendships just wither away.
With a global pandemic maintaining, a friendship was hard; zoom made it a bit easier, but it was still tough. As things started opening up people flocked to hang out with friends again. Some realized that they didn’t want to be friends anymore or forged new friendships.
For me — well I thought — I had done pretty well. I’m the kind of friend who has always tries to check in every once in a while. A quick hello text to check-in, a card in the mail to just drop in and say hello, or a video chat to just catch up.
In the past couple of weeks, I’ve realized just how many of my friends are no longer my friends anymore.
Whether it’s been through growing older and no longer having a common interest to we just no longer vibe well together.
The hardest realization was meeting up with friends who I haven’t seen in a bit who I thought were good friends. I soon realized that was no longer the case. I realized that they were all still great friends, hanging out together doing things weekly, reminiscing and I was just sitting there. These were friends who were always too busy to spend time with me but managed to have time to hang out with each other. I spent a lot of time peaking at my phone, texting other friends. It was an awkward situation.
It was a very hard realization that friends I thought I had were not there. I drove home upset, but in hindsight, other friends were texting me making plans with me and it evened itself out. Even though my friends didn’t know what was going on, it was a real breath of fresh air.
Growing up is tough, losing friends is even harder, but in the end, it works out. New friends will come in and replace those who go, and they’ll do a great job in filling that space. Texting you random TikToks, sending you funny just because cards in the mail, dancing wildly with you singing emo music, or just texting you hello hope you have a good day.
In the end, it’s okay to leave behind friendships that no longer benefit you, that do not align with your beliefs or timeline. No one is ever too busy for a friend.
