To be honest I HAVE a lot to say, like a lot to say!

So you know what pals buckle up; grab a warm blanket & a good drink because it’s going to be a bit of a long post!

Support your friends

If your friend is starting a small business or is trying a new hobby support them! Share their posts on social media, send them texts of encouragement, listen to their struggles and wins. You don’t have to like the product they are selling or be interested in the new hobby, but just listen and show some interest. They are your friend, and that’s what friends do! Unless their small business or hobby is an MLM, then they aren’t your friend and dump them right now.

Stop saying “I don’t have time”

You do have time. There are 168 hours or 10,080 minutes in a week; you send what 40 hours a week working, so that leaves you with 128 hours. You might sleep 5 to 8 hours a day; that leaves you with 123 to 120 hours or 7,380 to 7,200 minutes. What are you doing with that time? Stop watching Netflix, get off social media, stop stalking your ex, and STOP MAKING EXCUSES! You have time to; text your friend back, read that book, start a side hustle, look for a new job, or whatever you want to do. You are stopping yourself, and you have no one to blame but yourself.

Check-In On Your friends

No friendship is not every day, but friendship is checking in on your friends. We’re going through a global pandemic; working from home or no work, homeschooling kids’, or helping their family with their issues, so check-in on your friends. Just send a quick “hey how are you” or send them in a funny social media meme to let them know you’re thinking of them. It could make the world to them.

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Social Media is not a place to ask for medical advice

If you, your S/O, or your child(ren) are currently experiencing any type of ailment you should call the nurse’s line at your doctor’s office, schedule a video doctor’s visit and/or go to the emergency room. Do not post photo(s) of rashes and/or fecal matter on social media. That mom in the Facebook group down the street did not go to nursing school & the influencers you follow on Instagram do not have a doctorate degree, go seek help! And no those essential oils will not cure cancer, stop with the MLM.

Stop ONLY asking your parent friends about their kids‘

People with kids have been with their kids pretty much 1-1 for the past year, stop asking about how their kids’ are unless the child has had a recent injury. They want to talk about ANYTHING else other than their precious (monster) child, cartoons, boogers, and action figures. Ask if they’ve had a chance to watch the newest murder documentary on Netflix, or if they’ve found the perfect hiding spot in their house, or what type of sweat pants they’ve been buying. Seriously change the subject to anything else.

Stop sharing Misinformation

Seriously, for the love of all things amazing (like cheese), STOP SHARING MISINFORMATION! No, your conspiracy theory uncle is not a reliable source for information! Before you share importation information, especially medical information, CHECK YOUR SOURCE! Just because it is on the internet or you “heard it” does not make it true.

Yes you can cut ties w/ family

Do not ever let anyone tell you that you have to love your family no matter what. That is the BIGGEST bullshit, and no blood is not thicker than water. If your family is being mentally or physically abusive, now, or ever you do not have to withstand that abuse. Do not allow anyone to make you feel bad for taking care of your mental health first. Trust me, save yourself thousands of dollars in therapy fees.

Remember, family, are those who love you when you cannot love yourself, who lend a hand when you fall, and will remind you when you’re being crazy, but support you anyway.

Stop Telling People To “Stop Being Sad”

First off you have no clue what that person is through if they’d like to tell you that’s between you and them, but it’s none of your business. Secondly, telling someone to just “stop being sad” is not how that works, it’s not just a switch. Yes, there can be a bright side to every situation, but there also may have been 15 steps to get to the “being sad” stage. In the end, it is free to keep your comments to yourself. Just offer to be there, and buy them a snack.

Insurance is a FUCKING scam

Yes, I said it! Why are my dental and eye insurance separate from my health insurance? Why do I have to pay $310 a month for those three insurances? Also, why pay for dental insurance when my tooth extraction wasn’t even covered by insurance. Oh, and while on that subject; why did I have to decide between having the tooth fixed or having the tooth removed? Why was there a $3,200 difference?

Please also tell me why when someone hits my car and stays the insurance company will pay up to my deductible, but if someone hits my car and leaves I have to pay the WHOLE thing out of pocket?

Seriously FUCK insurance, all of it!

Your chore list will never die

Seriously, I could fill my whole 24 hour day just with cleaning & organizing my house, and you know what, I learned it will still be dirty. I know, because I’ve spent weekends just trying to clean my home, and I’m never satisfied.

Every evening I vacuum my downstairs, and every evening that vacuum is full. Every evening I mop my kitchen floor, and every evening that mop pad is dirty. I wash every counter in my home down at least once a day, and still, they are dirty. I am always picking items up and putting them back into their correct place. Once a week bedding needs to be cleaned, and new bedding needs put back on the bed. Oh, and there is not a day in my house the washer is not running. At the end of the day, that chore list will keep growing no matter what cleaning schedule you try or how much you divide the chores, and it will keep going & multiple.

So you have to learn you’ll be doing chores forever. To help make hard and fast rules; no dishes in the sink, no dirty clothes on the floor, or just take a couple of hours, and ignore it all?

You need to let go

You need to let go of the toxic people in your life. The ones who never have time for you, who do not celebrate your wins, who never have any feedback, and never support you. Do not keep letting them into your head, keeping you down, you have to let go. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself “Am I sad or did you allow someone who does not matter get into my head?“. You have to look out for yourself first and be happy with yourself, don’t let others get you down. Burn the bridge & shut the door, there are multiple ways to cross the water & new doors with sunshine to open.

Keep your dirty laundry off the internet

If you’re having marital problems, baby mamma/daddy drama, or friendship drama social media is not the place for that. The PERSON you are having the issues with should be the person you should be discussing those issues with. Not your 175 Facebook followers, for you to then state I just don’t want to talk about it right now.

The world needs you in it

It’s a tough world we live in right now, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I know it doesn’t seem like that tunnel has an end, and the light keeps getting further away, but you’ll get there. It’s okay to reach out to a friend, family member, or call the suicide hotline (1-800-273-8255). It’s okay to just take a nap because you’re exhausted, it’s okay to leave the dishes in the sink because you’re overwhelmed, it’s okay to just lay on your kitchen floor and get emotional. What’s not okay is to give up, you are cared for by many people, even if you don’t feel like it. This is just a low point, it gets better I really do promise.

No, I’m not just promising from nowhere; I’m promising because I’ve been there and some days I fall back into that rut. Life is fucking hard, no matter if you have a full support system or your own. If you need someone to just listen my DMs are always open. And remember, if you just survived the day, that’s okay.

Take this ranting post and any others with a grain of salt. I’m just someone who sits in their house in black sweat pants drinking coffee who writes things because people visit my blog.

In the end, I just want everyone to peacefully co-exist while sharing a beer.

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